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Signals in a job interview: Succeed or Fail (PART II)
The question that comes to mind after not getting a job is: What did I do wrong to be rejected? There are several reasons for being denied and our behaviour has plenty to do with it. Are you making mistakes? Find out now.
Oftentimes self-confidence and self-assurance are encouraged; what’s not mentioned enough is what can happen if these are excessive, is it good to have too much confidence?
The truth is that it isn’t. Showing up to a job with too much confidence can upset the other candidates and also the person who’s in charge of the interview.
It’s very common that people who handle themselves very well and have plenty of knowledge in the area they’re applying to tend to feel superior to the other applicants, has it ever happened to you? It’s very likely that it has. It’s happened to most of us, and not only in the workplace but also in our daily lives. We can see that this hardly ever brings us positive consequences.
The first thing that must be done if this is your case, is to look around and realize that even if you have a lot of knowledge about the job, there could be other ten candidates with the same abilities that you have and maybe even more.
We must feel proud to know the job so well, but we must use that knowledge wisely and show it correctly.
If we are too self-assured, the problems don’t just relate to our verbal expressions, but also to our body movements that are being so carefully watched during the interview. A professional will consider them thoroughly, specially a PRL (professional in Human Resources).
This is why practice is so important, and getting to know ourselves is the most effective step to achieve a good body language and to avoid giving the wrong signals to the interviewer, signals that might even cost us the job.
What happens when a person has excessive confidence?
Showing too much confidence can be a problem in an interview as well as not showing any. It’s important to be self-assured, but some movements can make you lose a job opportunity.
What usually happens is that when the interviewer calls a confident candidate to their office or the place where the interview is being held, they stand up looking up, walking fast and stepping very hard, sometimes this can be seen as arrogant or over-exaggerated, so If this is your case lower your head a bit and look forward towards the interviewer.
Remember that the handshake must be gentle and firm, so don’t grab too tight and for too long, this can be very uncomfortable for the interviewer and can make your interview start off badly.
During the interview, many people get bored or impatient, even if you feel this way, it’s important to remember the reason that you’re there; avoid at all costs rubbing your hands or tapping them against your laps or the desk.
Don’t ever sit and grab your hands over your head, this suggests excessive confidence and can bother the interviewer or people surrounding you.
Keep your hands to yourself when talking, it can be very distracting if you use them too much when trying to explain something. If something starts bothering you, putting your hands behind your back or crossing your arms in your chest level will reveal your feelings immediately, so keep your hands and arms where you can see them.
Be very careful with your facial expressions. Avoid ironical laughter or frowning when something doesn’t feel right to you. This happens constantly because the questions that the professional interviewer asks won’t be always pleasant; ironical laughs are sometimes done without a person even noticing, this occurs when they’ve been asked questions that might seem absurd or extremely obvious.
Remember that the interviewer will be evaluating each and every one of your movements, and questions of that nature are intended and designed precisely to trigger the applicant to get angry or make them feel uncomfortable, so take everything very seriously and objectively.
These movements will speak for themselves, and the reason they’re more likely to happen is because a PHR will often try you to get nervous or uncomfortable to get to know the real you and will ask you questions that you have to think thoroughly and carefully.
The way to avoid them is -as we’ve said- by practicing and using your body movements as a complement to your words. For most of the population achieving a good body language is a lifetime job, but is a job that can certainly be accomplished by you or anyone who sets their mind into it.
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